Who on earth will not be familiar with Helen Keller – a well admired American Author, a deaf-blind lady who got her bachelor’s degree despite the fact she was deprived of basic human functions; to see, to listen, and speak. How lucky she was! Neither she had to listen to any critical comments, nor she couldn’t see who was trying to put her down, nor she had to waste energy in responding to negative comments.
Just imagine! What if you also metaphorically transform yourself into people like her who neither can hear any critical comments, neither speak in return of criticism, and neither see who’s bowing a seed of negativity in your life. The best way to handle critical people and criticism is; don’t listen to the voices which stop you from doing what you want.
I know you would be thinking “it’s not that easy, we have to listen what people say whether critically, or neutrally, we can’t ignore the truth” Yes you can’t, but at least you can refrain yourself from getting victimized of excessive criticism, you can defend yourself from that discouragement which you don’t deserve as many people only live today to scrutinize other’s achievements, and to criticize other’s potentials, and success.
When we talk about critical people, and how to tackle their criticism, then another notable factor comes is they’re not only your acquaintance, or office colleagues, but your own relatives, and good friends to whom you trust faithfully. On receiving their criticism, any person would feel like “ EtTu Brutus?” but unfortunately it’s a part of life.
Everything has a solution! The purpose of writing this article is to guide you how you can handle critical people in your life. Have a look at the following tips.
Do not allow Critical words to fall into your Ears
As I open this article with praising Helen Keller, then it’s the best way to clarify you the point through the example of her features. Become deaf for critical people, put a hand on your ears so you could not listen to any critical word regarding your success, relationship, potential, or character.
In short, ignore what they’re saying and don’t take it personally.
Become a Dumb!
Silence is the best way to answer a fool, or whoever is criticizing you. This is not a quote by any famous writer, rather my own solution which I found after the thorough experience. Give a basic 1-2 line reaction, one that recognizes receipt of the remark, however, doesn’t connect with further in the exchange. Likewise, if the individual proceeds, basically neglect him/her absolute.
Now, clearly, he/she needs to touch off a reaction in you. By not doing as such, you keep up your control of the circumstance.
Become a Blind – Have a blind faith in yourself
Forget who is standing against you to block your way to success, keep on moving with supporting stick of faith and optimism. Once you stop in response to criticism or step back then you won’t be able to move forward in life.
Do not look who is trying to fill your life with negativity, neither react, but show them it’s not easy to trap you under the net of criticism and discouragement.
Embrace Your Own Fears & Insecurities
Offensive communications give us an opportunity to embrace our own fears and insecurities. When we feel harmed about something, it’s frequently on the grounds that it triggers some uncertain feeling inside ourselves.
Recognizing this, we can practice compassionate self-inquiry, without anger or judgment toward ourselves. This is a best chance to come a tiny bit closer to your own truths.