If we take a look at the world, we see entire population immersed in the pool of love either directly or indirectly, after marriage or without marriage. There are plenty of quotes, sonnets, anecdotes, and stories on true love that has inspired many individuals, but rarely someone knows the right way to love, and how to use it as a right track to bring one’s life on a right direction.
Keep aside love for a second, in fact, people proudly celebrate the symptoms of falling in love with someone – the cliché points which I’ve become used to listening since I entered into the conscious world, such as; lack of concentration, lack of appetite, when a particular person’s presence becomes a treat to eye, when career ambition and will to achieve something in life eventually ends at marriage, and list goes on.
What makes love disgusting is when it creates havoc in one’s life, and thus disturbs other lives interlinked with it.
The purpose of writing this article is to tell the world the true meaning, and the concept of love. The notion of “rising in love” is to know the beauty of love, and how to enjoy it to its fullest.
Let’s divide concept of love into three couples; unmarried/ single lovers, newly married and matured the oldest couple. Trust me, this guide can help you make a perfect relationship.
For single / Unmarried lovers
The bachelor or single age for me is the best period to make one’s career, and struggle to stand on one’s feet. Getting involved in early age relationship is not bad, but at least make yourself able enough to take a responsibility for whole life.
Parents contribute a lot in making their children live well established and put their life in jeopardy to make your life luxurious one, so don’t you think first it’s their right to get something positive and worth spending in return? Don’t they deserve to feel empowered by their children’s support and loyalty?
If parents are open-minded and allow to move in life with your soul inspiration then its different thing, but admissible.
I’ve seen many individuals who rebel against their parents for their boyfriend or girlfriend’s sake, trust me if you didn’t get blessings from your parents, then you will never enjoy the beauty of life. When people take their parents and family for granted, this makes love a hub of problems, a mire of conflicts.
Always remember, finding a life partner is not a big deal, that person will automatically come to you as written in your fate, but you won’t get your parents again. These are those personalities who dedicate their lives to you and pray nothing to God except your happiness.
Another issue which we often come across in current youth is, ending your own life for sake of love. Oh God! I must say a loser way to quit and say “I lose”.
To me, it seems like when you fail to turn the table in chess, you screw everything in anger saying – I don’t want to play this game. A person who ditch you, why you are letting them feel – I won? Instead, show you’re not something to break easily, tell that person “you make me realize how wrong I was to choose you and put my loved ones down for you. It’s thebest punishment of my sin; thank you for giving me a chance to improve my mistake”
This issue can be seen in twofold perspectives actually; the second one is, if you end your life for someone, that person may find another one to spend a life, but your parents won’t get another gem like you again, so why to punish your parents for that second person? Instead, beat them in challenge, and prove you’re a warrior rather providing them a win-win situation by abusing yourself and saying “you win, and I lose”
Newly Married Couples
Jealousy and possessiveness are the root cause of ruining happy lives. Love is not a service that one can enjoy. It is mostly assumed that possessiveness is a way to show love, but actually, it’s not. Let your love fly like a bird, if it’s your’s it will turn back to you, as it said that;
“Home is where the heart is”
But, if it does not come back, it was never for you. Another root cause that ruins even well-trusted relationship is Jealousy. It harms every relationship. This offensive feeling generates when a wife or husband can’t bear to see their partner with some other person of the opposite sex.
Nobody likes to be confined. If your love is pure, your partner will realize that h/she can’t get the happiness anywhere from others that you give to him. The perfect relationship is developed when nothing on this earth can affect their trust for each other. When you or your partner does not have any concern with whom you meet, and whom you visit – excluding those limits when a latter person tries to cross over.
Love in oldest couples
It goes without saying that “Old is Gold”, but unfortunately, I have seen many grudges even between middle-aged and oldest couples, why? Because they take love as a commodity and force their partner to change. They often put conditions in front of love, such as desiring someone who doesn’t talk too much or who is more social.
If you try to change people in order to love them, then it’s not love. It becomes a deal. Ideal relationship for me is when partner whether spouse or husband has firm belief in their opposite partner, when they love their partner for not how they’ve retained their beauty for years, rather for what they are inside, accept them with all flaws and qualities, and most importantly when they know how to balance their relationship, and family well, so does their feelings.